Building a solid support network can make all the difference in navigating the highs and lows of solo motherhood. This guide gives you five tips on how to create the support system that feels right for you, whether that means tapping into close friends and family, joining new communities or seeking professional help.
Before you can start building your support system, it’s important to take a step back and think about what kind of help you need. Every solo mum’s situation is different, so start by asking yourself these questions:
Your family and friends can often be the cornerstone of your support system. But asking for help can sometimes feel uncomfortable or challenging, even from people who know you well. Maybe you worry about burdening others or feel pressure to do everything yourself.
The truth is your loved ones often want to help—they may just need to know how. By having open, honest conversations with the people around you, you can set clear expectations and ask for support in a way that feels comfortable for everyone involved.
Family and friends can be incredibly supportive. But sometimes solo mums need to explore other ways to find extra help and guidance. Expanding your support network by joining new communities can provide you with new friendships, fresh perspectives and connecting with others who are on a similar path.
Local parenting groups or organisations can be a great way to set up playdates, babysitting swaps or share experiences and emotional encouragement.
Online communities have made it easier for solo mums to find support without leaving home. Social media groups and online forums offer a wealth of resources and a sense of community that can be accessed anytime, from anywhere.
If you’re unsure where to begin, a simple online search for local parenting groups or social media communities for solo mums is a great first step. Try different groups to see which one suits you best.
Solo mums often juggle multiple responsibilities, which can sometimes feel overwhelming. In these moments, seeking the help of a mental health professional like a therapist or counselor can be invaluable. They can provide a safe, non-judgmental space where you can talk about your feelings, work through your emotions and develop coping strategies.
Professional support can also include getting help from parenting coaches. They can provide targeted support around parenting, giving tips on how to create a positive home environment and manage behaviour.
It’s important to have a strong support system. But it's equally important to cultivate your independence as a solo mum. Knowing that you can count on yourself as well as those around you will give you a greater sense of control over your life and parenthood. Accepting help from others doesn’t diminish your independence—it enhances it. In fact, delegating certain tasks can free up time and mental space for you to grow as a parent and as an individual.
There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to building a support system. What works for one solo mum might not work for another, and that’s okay. The beauty of this journey is that you get to shape your own experience by finding the people, the resources and the communities that resonate with you.
