Initially this was all just a plan. Polly was not ready to put it into action just yet. First, she needed feedback and reassurance. She filled in a very good, yet rather conservative friend. This friend supported Polly, even if she would not consider sperm donation for herself. She asked critical questions, and they discussed many aspects. Another friend was against it. She did not want any children herself and projected arguments, such as “this is not appropriate”, on Polly. However, this did not make Polly question the idea of sperm donation, rather it made her question the friendship.
Polly was very open about her plan and told her superiors at work about it. This was a risk, but she was nevertheless promoted and generally received a lot of support in the workplace. Within her family, she initially only told one sister and a very close cousin about her plan. Her cousin wanted a third child and they had always dreamt of being pregnant at the same time. Christmas 2019, surrounded by lots of children and family, the decision was made: What was she waiting for?